It can be so tempting to rush into wedding planning without really knowing where to start and having very little idea of what is and what isn’t important to you. It’s perfectly understandable to get caught up in a whirlwind of excitement and start scrolling through social media for inspiration seconds after sliding that engagement ring onto your finger. However, taking a little time to identify some priorities and get a sense of your likes and dislikes can help you to stay focussed, avoid overwhelm and not get caught up in pushy sales talk from suppliers.
So what is the first thing you should do when it comes to wedding planning and what should you book first? Well, there is no single answer that is applicable to all and that’s why a little self-reflection can save a lot of time, money and stress later on down the line! Here are four starting points for planning the wedding that means the most to you;
Think about your marriage and what that means to you both before thinking about the wedding day itself.
Your wedding is one day, whilst your marriage is (hopefully) set to last a lifetime. Don’t sacrifice your peace-of-mind, financial stability or valued friendships / relationships for the sake of trying to impress or show off on your big day.
2. Make plans and set goals for your first year of marriage and beyond.
Looking beyond the wedding day allows you to get a sense of perspective and keep your relationship at the centre of every decision you make. It also reduces feelings of anti-climax and post-wedding blues following your wonderful wedding day.
3. Identify shared values and beliefs that are intrinsic to your relationship and use these to set priorities for your wedding.
Ignore the fact you getting married for a few minutes and think about what you value most in life. Knowing that family, work or wellbeing are the things you value most can influence the decisions you make when wedding planning. Is the venue accessible for Grandma in her wheelchair? Do you have business or career plans that impact potential wedding dates? Would having too many guests cause too much anxiety for you?
4. Don’t lose sight of your values in order to have somebody else’s idea of the perfect day.
It’s amazing how many people ‘kindly offer’ their opinions and advice when they hear you are getting married. Most advice will be well-intentioned but some will come from a place of judgement or pushing personal agendas onto you. Remember that only you are the expert on you, trust your instincts and be firm in your own ideas and vision of the wedding you want.
In my book How to have a wedding as individual as you are, I dedicate a whole chapter to this topic. Click HERE to order your copy and get lots more advice about planning your perfect day.
Listen to “Pinpointing Your Wedding Priorities”
The first episode of my podcast (also called How to have a wedding as individual as you are) centred on this topic of identifying values prior to planning your wedding.
Click the green triangle below to listen to myself and Fred Foster from Yours Occasionally guide you through the first steps of wedding planning and share what is and what isn’t really important when it comes to your special day.
If you are looking for wedding stationery with a touch of class along with oodles of creativity, then you must check out Fred’s designs. Fred’s work can be viewed on her website at www.yoursoccasionally.co.uk or follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram (where she shares further advice and expert knowledge) by searching for Yours Occasionally.
Thanks for reading / listening and happy wedding planning!